A rock goes through fire, to become a diamond.

When I look back at the darkest time of my life, I draw inspiration, rather than push it to the back of my mind, trying to forget. Now, I know this is a fashion lifestyle blog, but it it is important for me to be brutally honest, and explain how my passion for fashion and life came about. Life happened very early for me. I was 19 years old in my first year of college, figuring out who I was, who I wanted to be and where the journey of higher education would take me. That year I experienced marriage, pregnancy, and domestic violence. By the age of 21, I was a divorced single mom. I felt hopeless and stripped of my self worth, respect, love and everything that I knew up until that point.

The only thing that kept me going ,was my beautiful baby girl Sophia. When I found out I was pregnant, I thought to myself, “this is the worst thing that could ever happen to me.” Little did I know, this child would be the motivation and strength to do things I never thought to be capable of. I learned how to be independent. School became a luxury I could no longer afford. I started working as a teller and worked my way up finance as a banker. I found self love through my faith, which instilled in me my self worth. I didn’t realize why life was so difficult for me, but I got through it.  I remembered a term once told to me, “a rock goes through fire to become a diamond.” I can clearly see now everything happens for a reason, and wouldn’t take back one minute of pain, if it meant my life would be different than it is now.

Through these very important events in my life, I have grown exponentially in all aspects. Growing up, I was generally happy and very sheltered due to the fact my mother was a roman catholic, raised by nuns in an all girl school all the way through college. Though I attended church every Sunday, I never understood the importance of faith. These events opened my relationship with God, when I was desperate, looking for some manual or guide to life. Luckily for me, it was right in front of me my whole life. I picked up a bible, and in that moment, I rooted myself in Gods word. I now embrace pain, with the mentality of “bring it on.”  When I come across the inevitable hardships of life, I now know, it only shapes me and eventually adds value to my life. Once I understood my value, I became self motivated to become successful.

I educated myself to understand how the real world worked, and that nothing in life will be handed to me, and if it was given I wouldn’t appreciate it as much as if worked for it. I found inspiration to become a boss. I realized through the years of working in finance, that I liked the look of corporate fashion. I started to become excited to try different looks in my wardrobe. With trial and error ,at the expense of my manager having to pull the company’s policy handbook, in order to show me that leather leggings are in fact, not appropriate business attire, I saved those for my street style looks.

The purpose of this blog is to empower and inspire women, to understand that beauty is not only about how you look on the outside, but, to embrace exceptional beauty by being a triple threat. One who is smart, independent, kind and drop dead gorgeous. Now I wouldn’t take this challenge on, unless I was humbled by life with only 2 choices; sink or swim. Nevertheless, I am here to let you know, you do not have to wait for life to happen, to become the best version of yourself.

I am the same person I was 4 years ago; broken shattered and hopeless. The truth is i am the kind of person who needs to learn the hard way. I lacked motivation, before my huge life event, but my purpose is to motivate other to not waste another moment, and take life by the horns. Women are highly underestimated. I intend to be the voice and the push, in order to advocate that women are strong, capable and beautiful. Don’t settle to be a rock, and use your fire to become a diamond.

I always find beauty in things that are odd and imperfect, they are much more interesting